Double Ended Dildos – How to Use Them Solo and with a Partner
Double Ended Dildos – How to Use Them Solo and with a Partner
Double ended dildos are longer than standard dildos – typically twelve to eighteen inches – with a realistic or abstract head at each end. They work for solo simultaneous penetration, for penetration shared between two partners, and as versatile toys that suit a range of pairings and uses. Here’s how they actually work in practice.
What Makes Them Different
The length and flexibility of a double-ended dildo is what makes the various uses possible. They’re designed to be bent, curved, and angled – which means they can reach two entry points simultaneously when used solo, or allow two partners to share the toy from opposite ends. The material needs to be flexible enough to accommodate bending without breaking, which is why most double enders are made from soft silicone or pliable rubber rather than firmer materials.
Solo Use
Used alone, a double-ended dildo can provide simultaneous vaginal and anal stimulation – the flexibility of the toy allows it to curve between the two positions once both ends are inserted. Apply lubricant generously to both ends before starting. Lie on your back with a cushion under your hips to tilt the pelvis. Insert the thicker end (if the ends differ in size) vaginally first, then guide the other end toward the anus while maintaining your hold on the toy.
An alternative solo position: curve the toy into a U shape, rest both ends pointing upward, and use a squatting or kneeling position to lower onto both ends simultaneously. This requires more control but provides a different angle.
Water-based lubricant throughout is essential – reapply as needed. The toy needs to be held and guided throughout rather than left unsupported.
Use with a Partner
When used between two partners, each takes one end of the toy and the two partners move toward each other until meeting in the middle. This works for vaginal/vaginal penetration, anal/anal, or one of each – depending on the preferences of both people involved. It requires coordination and communication to find a comfortable shared rhythm, but once established provides mutual penetration that’s different from any other toy type.
Both partners need generous lubrication before starting. A soft, flexible material is important here – too rigid and it becomes uncomfortable as the two partners find their position relative to each other. Starting with a moderate length gives more control over how far each person takes their end, particularly initially.
Strap-On Compatibility
Double-ended dildos can also be used with a strap-on harness in a specific configuration: one end is inserted into the wearer for internal stimulation while the other extends outward for penetrating a partner. This creates mutual sensation – both people feel the toy during sex rather than just the receiving partner. This requires that the internal end is comfortable and stays secured during movement, which takes some practice.
What to Look For
Material: body-safe silicone is the best option – flexible, durable, non-porous, and compatible with water-based lubricant. Avoid jelly rubber for any toy used internally. Length: twelve inches provides enough length for most shared uses; shorter ends up limiting usefulness for some applications. Flexibility: the toy should be soft enough to bend comfortably but firm enough to retain enough shape to be guided effectively.
Clean thoroughly after every use. Non-motorised silicone toys can be boiled or washed in the dishwasher for full sterilisation. Use a condom over one or both ends if switching between partners or between vaginal and anal use.
